Listen: Simply listening can be helpful for your loved ones to share, vent and feel lighter. Show interest by maintaining eye contact and nodding your head when necessary. Be there for your loved one and let them do the talking. If they find it difficult to open up, reassure them that you are there to listen whenever they are ready.
Be patient: There may be times when you want to know about their situation in a detailed manner or try to get immediate help. But, the key is to have patience and not pressure them to do more than they are comfortable with. Offer them the space and time to talk to you at their pace. Try not to force them into a situation that can trigger their fear. Simply show your care by offering support throughout.
Know their triggers: Each individual can differ in terms of their experiences or triggers of PTSD. It is helpful to speak with your loved ones about the kind of situations or discussions that may spark a flashback or a heavy feeling. For instance, they may be specifically disturbed by noises, violence, a certain place, person, smell or even an object. Having a clear understanding of these triggers can enable you to be more prepared when the flashbacks take place.
Encourage them to seek treatment: You can always suggest and help your loved ones reach out for professional help if they are ready. There is a lot of medical and psychological support available. Often there are underlying psychological issues, so it’s important to take therapy and the medicines prescribed. This will help bring the situation under control. If your friend or family member is seeking help:
- Make an effort to respect their privacy.
- Don’t force them to reveal details of the therapy sessions.
- Be patient with the recovery process as the journey can be challenging.
- Support them to continue with their treatment.
Check out for the warning signs: You might notice sudden changes in the behaviour of the loved one you want to help.
- Sudden changes in their mood, like feeling angry, irritated, low or anxious.
- Changes in performance level at work, such as being late, absenteeism, missing deadlines, etc.
- Changes in energy levels, like extreme vigilance or lack of concentration.
If you come across any of these signs in your loved one, you can always ask them how they are feeling. This might encourage them to share and open up.